Sunday, July 29, 2007
Do Big Time Christians Date Non-Big Time Christians?
What's good folks? Yes yes... I'm back. Orlando was fun. Had a good time, learned some new things, played golf, and met new people.
One night after a meeting, I went down to the bar and hung out with a co-worker. While we were there, two girls from the meeting came in and chilled with us. One of the ladies was feeling me pretty tough.
We cracked jokes, drank, ate... cracked more jokes, drank more, ate more... We were then joined by two more female co-workers who joined the party. So we proceeded to crack more jokes, drink more and eat more. We were THEN joined by two more female co-workers... you get the point.
So there we are... two guys and six girls really enjoying each others' company. Of all the girls there, I was really feeling Josie. She was pretty, well spoken, beautiful smile, nice personality... all the things that you'd initially find attractive in a person.
Being that we were at the bar and having a good time, I turned my attention to her and asked if she'd like something to drink.
"No thanks...I don't drink."
"Sure you drink... they got water, sodas, everything! Water ALL NIGHT...On Me!"
She laughed and I ordered her a water. Afterwards I got her number and called it a night.
The next and final night virtually everybody at the meeting planned to hit the Pleasure Island Clubs. You better believe that I was excited because it was the last night, and it was guaranteed that everybody at the meeting (which boasts a huge amount of young, fine, single women) were going to let loose and have a good time.
So while I was waiting on the rest of the guys to come downstairs to make our way over to the clubs, Josie shows up. When I asked her if she was going to the club, she said that she didn't do clubs. One of my older friends then asked her where she lived and what church she went to. The conversation about churches lasted for 10-15 minutes. In that conversation found out that she grew up in the church, that she was the president of campus ministries when she was in college and that her walk with Christ is super strong.
When it was time to roll out, she said that she was just going to walk around the park by herself to look around and probably hit a movie. I thought it would probably be a good idea to escort her, even though I was really trying to hit the club.
After the movie we walked back and, surprisingly, the conversation was stale. I'm usually pretty decent at having good conversations with women I'm interested in, but I was trying to find common ground and it just wasn't happening. I think that when I found out about her "walk" I really limited myself on what I thought was appropriate to talk about with her, which wasn't much. And the things that I thought were "safe" to talk about didn't spark much of a conversation. Even still, she said that she wants to come visit me during my birthday week in a couple months.
So here's my question. Do you guys think it's possible for a devout Christian to have a relationship with someone who believes in Christ but is still "out in the world?" Would the gap between our relationships with God even be condusive to the thought of a serious relationship? I believe that in addition to attraction and moralitly, religion plays a huge role in finding a compatible partner.
Time for you guys to give your boy some good relationship advice. What do you think?